There have been so many things going through my mind the last few days. Mostly mom things. I try to post about the positive things with my sons since this is such a public viewing of our lives. I know that this blog only gives people a quick snap shot of our lives. I realize that that it may seem like I try to sugar coat how things are going in our lives, but that is not my intention.
My sons are 9 and 11 years old. They are far from perfect. They are tweens and being tweens means there is a lot of drama in their lives. I don’t post about the drama because I don’t think it is my drama to share. I love to share quirky stories and funny moments in our lives.
As a mom, you want the best for your kids, but I also know it is not my job to make their lives perfect. When things go wrong we talk. We want the boys to feel comfortable to come to us with the good, the bad and the ugly. We want them to talk to us about what they are thinking.
Over the years we have dealt with many different issues with the boys dealing with everything from grades, to peer issues, to stress and anxiety. I don’t share these here. That doesn’t mean that I don’t think about it. That doesn’t mean it doesn’t effect the way I blog. It just means I won’t blog about it for the protection of my boys.
But, what I will tell you is that having an open and honest relationship with your family is so important. My sons see that Richard and I talk through our problems. We don’t always agree, but we discuss instead of argue. We listen instead of yell. We stop and remember that we aren’t perfect and that we can’t expect the others in our house to be perfect either.
We choose to parent our sons in a way that allows each of them to have a voice. They know that they can voice their opinions, but we do not have a democratic house. We are the parents and have the final say, but they have a voice. We will not rescue the boys, but will help when they need it. We will guide them, we will listen to their concerns, we will give suggestions, but they need to make the final decision on how they choose to deal with the situations at hand. They deal with the choices and consequences of these choices.
I love my family. I love the relationships I have with each of the guys in my life. I interact with each one different. They know that I love them each for who they are and only wish for them to become the best version of himself. I can’t wait to continue on this journey and hope that the direction we are traveling is the best path for our whole family.