(let me state that I’m writing this post as I, but Richard and I both deal with all these conversations with our sons in the same way. I’m glad that he and I are almost always on the same page and we know that together we show our sons the love and respect that parents can have. We show them that we are both here for them no matter what)
I let this post mull over in my brain yesterday. Yet again we are living in the city that is coping with sadness do to ignorance and prejudiced.
We were living in Orlando, FL at the time of the Pulse Nightclub shooting. These people were out enjoying time with their friends. They were doing the same things others do every weekend. They were doing their own thing and not bothering anyone.
I had to explain to my sons that people thing they are better than others. That people believe that you should not be allowed to love whomever you choose. We had conversations about better ways to disagree. Better ways to deal with anger. Better ways… there have to be better ways!
Now we live outside of Pittsburgh, PA. Yesterday there was a shooting in a synagogue. What was happening inside this house of worship? a Bris. This is a baby naming service. This is a joyful time for parents and family members. It is a new member to the community. They were doing their own thing and not bothering anyone.
I had to explain to my sons that people still believe that there is a difference between the religions. That some are “better” than others. They do not understand people who are different believe different things and worship differently.
What makes you and yours right and someone else’s wrong? What make you thing that violence will solve problems? I always tell my children and my classes that violence doesn’t solves problems… it just makes new ones.
What can we do to get people to realize that they aren’t helping anyone.
Mr. Rogers was from Pittsburgh and filled his show here. I leave you with a few quotes from him.
My post earlier today, coupled with a conversation I had at dinner with the boys got me thinking…
When you talk about grit, you are talking about the thing that you are passionate about, the thing you work hard to achieve.
So I got thinking about myself. I know I have grit and passion about teaching. I’m always learning and changing as a teacher. I believe that that you have to constantly grow and improve in teaching. There are always new methods, ideas and ways of disseminating information.
But, what else am I passionate about? What is the thing that I enjoy? I realized when I was talking to the boys about finding that thing for them that cooking and baking would probably be one of those things for me. How did I figure this out?
I was talking to one of my sons about the fact that when he was young he was good at playing sports, but never put in the effort to get better. When you are passionate about something you don’t settle with “good enough” there is always a way to get better, stronger, faster, whatever… but you are never good enough. And that good enough isn’t defined by anyone but yourself.
So what is grit? it is the that push, the drive, that desire to not be good enough at something.
So my friends…. have you ever thought about it? What is your hard thing? What is the thing you keep pushing yourself to do more in? What is your passion?
Mom, is my pasta protein? No, it’s a carb. But, I thought you said that gluten is the protein in wheat, so doesn’t that make pasta a protein. Ummm, Ummm, it’s carb that has some protein OK!?!
That was my conversation with Colby last night.
When I went back to work, one of the things that became the boys responsibility was making their own lunches. At the time, they had Sistema To Go Collection Lunch Cube Food Storage Container, 47.3 Ounce/ 5.9 Cup (2 Pack) Clear with Assorted Color Accents to pack their lunches. This is divided into three sections. They learned to pack a protein item into the large section, a fruit/veggie into one of the smaller and a junk into the third section. To this day, even though they don’t have these cubes anymore they still pack a protein (meal), fruit and junk in their lunch. So what constitutes a protein has often been and still continues a topic of conversation.
Over the years, the boys have taken to reading the labels of many food products. They look at the proteins, sugars and calories in the items they eat. They have learned that they need to increase their protein if they want to build muscle. They know that sugars tend to be empty calories.
While we don’t want them to feel they can’t have certain foods, we are trying to help them see how to pick certain foods in moderation. This doesn’t stop them from debating over whose food choices are better and typically who eats the better protein foods.
We still are working on what foods go into what food categories evidently, but hey at least they are thinking about food choices already, even if it is to challenge my responses.
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